Friends bent upon Bandits

Well we have all had friends ,whose romantic linkups  we have come to despise at some point of time.Don’t roll your eyes.I know you must know at least one or two friends/acquaintance that has had either a partner or companion whom you just couldn’t stand.A relative maybe? So in this particular post I will elucidate on how people around me are bent upon choosing bandits (refers to bad people in case you didn’t get it )

So the story is that a really good friend of mine fell for a person who at first seemed  to be pretty normal, run of the mill.I was as usual being a good friend and wished everything works fine for her.But as this friend got more and more in love with him,bad things started to mushroom that drastically changed my perception of this guy.And I seriously started to question my friend’s sanity what the hell is she thinking ,why is she still with him even after knowing all of this filth.But then I figured  she is completely blinded by ‘love’ as people usually put it.

This is not the first instance,it usually happens that one of our‘vanilla sweet’ innocent friend falls for a sluty liar who is not only promiscuous but absolutely miserable in general.Like I have this friend whose girlfriend is so off, she complains about everything, gets quite nasty, is really high strung and really unpleasant to be around.Then there is another relative who not only got involved with (a person whom I strongly disapproved of )but rather went on to marry her.She is a gold digger i.e. she is only with my friend because she wants his money; she’ll spend it on jewellery, clothes,etc. Once he goes broke she'll go for another man that is rich.

I don’t know if its nature’s joke that a relatively positive friend of  mine would almost always fall for the person who is adversely opposite in comparison. So a generous, kind, average looking girl I know would mostly end up with an overbearing, narcissistic ass who thinks he has an impish sense of humour but is actually just cruel and nasty.A really intelligent, studious guy fell for a dumb sex bomb who is a total fool. Her IQ is barely over 70 and I can’t understand what he sees in her. You can’t talk to her about ANYTHING; she just doesn’t understand or have independent thought on any subject. On the other end of spectrum a happy-go-lucky girl would date insufferably self-centered ‘know-it-all’s who is complete misery guts. No matter what the topic is he has something negative to say. He'll just complain endlessly.

Some of you might say that its how people usually choose their partners i.e. go for things that are strange and complete different to their own personality.But if it is so then why 90% of them are not together anymore?.Maybe its because relationships  aren’t as easy as ABC.But trust me sometimes a friends’ romantic choices are so unbearable that their mere existence makes your skin crawl.Worst case scenario is when you know all the dirt about that person but can’t tell it to your friend cuz s/he will devastated .

Regardless of everything ,what I have learnt from all of these experiences is that we being friends should never  attempt playing God (not even a matchmaker),i.e. trying to control their lives by influencing who they chose to date and fall in love with.On the contrary we should be non-judgemental (and keep our mouths shut),and be there  for them providing unconditional support whenever these suckers treat ‘em badly .The key is  empathy ,not active engagement.Because it is their life so their choices and vice versa.