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Sex, a word so provoking and controversial that it catches the attention of even the least attentive of beings,some will shrug ,others would raise their brows and while a whole lot might be salivating in the hope that following piece of text would contain some saucy erotic details.In the following lines I‘I'll attempt not to disappoint anyone and hopefully get my point across regarding the act and not the word.

I recently watched a movie called ‘Kinsey’ released in 2004,which follows Dr. Alfred Kinsey’s evolutionary research on sexual behaviour among other things.To quote the movie,the gap between what we assume people do sexually and what they ACTUALLY do is enormous.And this lit a bulb in my head wow this is so relevant in our society’s context as well.Well Dr.Kinsey conducted his study primarily through direct interviews and that also at a time when we Pakistanis were fighting for Independence.So probably on average the general people responding to it were only as bold and expressive about sex as majority of us are today.

Well I assume most of you (my readers) have had some sort of exposure to sex,either in terms of active engagement or maybe just watched others engage in it and pleasured yourself.Contrary to popular opinion everybody masturbates and there is no proven adverse health consequences of it.In this age of the Internet,almost everybody has had watched pornography,so it is again assumed that you know there are different ways and situations in which people choose to have sex.There are multiple positions and acts ranging from bizarre to truly absurd.

People have to know the possibilities because ignorance of them might mean deprivation in some ways.It is my personal belief that a lot of people in our society have fetishes that they either  have not realized themselves or are afraid to ask for ‘em from the sexual partners.You don’t know what fetish is? well dictionary defines it as ‘Something nonsexual, such as an object or a part of the body which arouses sexual desire or is necessary for one to reach full sexual satisfaction’.If you look at the people around you, you might observe that there are many absurd ones,some people are aroused by being tied down/restrained (bondage),some like hair,others by same gender ,some even animals etc.Yea you read that it happens, some people actually do have sex with animals.

As there is diversity of other things among people,so is there a diversity by which people orgasm.Orgasm which is basically the pleasurable climax of the sexual activity is automatic reflex,and interestingly this reflex can be triggered by a wide range of inputs (besides genital stimulation),there have been cases reported in which a women had an orgasm every time she brushed her teeth and a man experiencing one when someone touched  his eye brows and a lot others.So you need not feel weird about your weird interests if any.

Leaving all the naughty discussions aside,we cannot ignore the fact sex is not merely a  mechanical activity ,its much more than that because it involves emotions and feelings ,it should not be ‘an end’ in itself.When done with a right person,it feels like heaven and stars shooting kinda inexplicable pleasure of epic proportions.But having said that ethics and morality prevalent in the society do deem some sexual acts/behaviour as indecent or even impermissible .So engaging in them can have some adverse social and even legal repercussions.Moreover there needs to  be an agreement,sense of responsibility and discretion between the partners engaging in it.

This blog post of mine only attempts educate on few issues regarding sex,there should be no denying the fact that Pakistan’s society because of its lack of sex education has become sexual repressed and its repercussions are spreading of HIV/AIDS, unwanted pregnancies, and sexual abuse etc.So I wish people could discuss about it freely that also without any ‘HOO-HAA’ or ‘hush hush’.Lastly, anybody who has any confusions or questions regarding their bodies and sex in general should either talk to a doctor or a parent (an elder partner doesn’t count).It may seem very difficult but trust me sweeping matters under the carpet will only cause you psychological distress.Sex is a risky and dangerous game because if you are not careful it will cut you wide open.